It makes me so mad that I missed some of these signs that I was getting from my youngest daughter. I think it makes me mad because I really didn’t know my spouse was capable of using the children as weapons and pawns. My youngest actually told me flat out that her sister is ‘mommy’s spy’. She told me to be careful and that she loved me. Here is a really good site that lays out many of the warning signs that you should be aware of. I wish I knew what to look for before my children were turned against me.